Lessons from Motherhood · My Faith

Thankful

I was chasing Little S around to put on his jumper before we left the house, he was not happy with me and protested vigorously.  Finally I was able to distract him and get it on, after many tears once it was on he tearfully and quietly said ‘thankyou Mummy’. I smiled and gave him a hug and said ‘thats ok, sweetheart’.

Gratitude is something that has been on my mind recently, its something that has been bought up in my fellowship group also.

In the Bible it says in 1 Thessalonians 16:18:

16Rejoice evermore. 17Pray without ceasing. 18In every thing give thanks: for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus concerning you. 

It is Gods will for us to give thanks in everything, whether pleasant or not. Little S thanks me and others a lot, weather its because we’ve given him a drink, an ice-cream and sometimes when I’ve done something that’s good for him even if he didn’t want it at the time.

In life we go through different seasons, somethings are just rubbishy and we don’t feel very grateful, but the word doesn’t say we should feel grateful, it says we should give thanks and that’s a different thing entirely. Jesus understands our pain and suffering and He does not enjoy it when we do suffer. However sometimes things are good for us even when we don’t want it. And God is always good, even during those times.

For me, gratitude isn’t an automatic thing but I’ve been thinking about ways I can be grateful and try to look for things to be grateful for, remembering that its the giving of thanks that we are commanded to do. Sometimes it helps to even write things down, then we can revisit when things get tough. We are not to be religious about it we don’t need to force anything, we can ask the Holy Spirit to show us and help us have a grateful heart towards Him. Anything that requires us to lean on Him, is a good thing.

I pray I can be like Little S and give thanks even when I feel grumpy and I am very grateful to The Lord for my little boy and the lessons I learn from being his mum. And the fact that he says thank you!

What are you grateful for? Give thanks to God today and remember His goodness in all things.

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Lessons from Motherhood · My Faith

Temptation

Being a Mum has taught me a lot about my walk with the Lord, it has shined a light on many things I do that I had no idea that I was doing.

Little S is now a full on running about, into everything toddler, we have found ourselves moving things higher and higher until even we can’t reach it.

We have a cupboard that had DVDs in it, once little S realised how to open the cupboard he was finding it loads of fun to pull them out, take of the covers and run around with them. So obviously I had to tell him to stop, a few times but eventually he got the picture. One day I watched him slowly move over to the cupboard, open it, and stand in front of the DVDs jumping up and down and getting upset because he knew he couldn’t touch them. I was right behind him telling him it was OK and showing him all his toys that he could play with but he wouldn’t acknowledge me. He got himself in such a state that I decided to move them elsewhere and put his toys in the cupboard instead.

It made me think… How many times have I been faced with temptation and refused to look around to my father who is waiting to help me?

The word says: 1 Corinthians 10:13 – There hath no temptation taken you but such as is common to man: but God [is] faithful, who will not suffer you to be tempted above that ye are able; but will with the temptation also make a way to escape, that ye may be able to bear [it].

I was right behind little S ready to help him he was surrounded by his toys all of which he was allowed to have but he still stood in front of the DVDs getting very stressed. How many times has my Father been waiting to help me? How many times have I forgotten all the wonderful gifts and joys knowing Him has brought me because I was so focused on something that I shouldn’t have or do, something that would cause me harm. Forgetting all I had to do was turn to Him?

I ultimately ended up moving the DVDs and I know there are times that The Lord has removed something from my life that was interfering with my relationship with Him and if we do fall The Lord is so gracious and merciful as:

Lessons from Motherhood · My Faith

Treasure

Little S has a small money box where he puts his pocket money from his Mama. He has learned that if you give him a coin, to wait until you get his money box and then he will put in into the slot.

The other day he found my purse and in it where some coins, he sat and waited so I let him put some into his money box, he turned it over and discovered that he can open it, take them out and put them back in, which was a very fun game. While he was doing this he found a note in there which he pulled out, examined then threw it behind him.

This got me thinking. Because little S doesn’t understand money yet he had no idea that the note was worth more than the 20ps he was taking out and putting back, but they where shiny and more interesting to look at, so, in his mind, they must be more important of his attention. I have been thinking about all the things that I am drawn to in life, things that take me away from the more valuable time I should be spending with Jesus. Unlike Little S I should know better, but I still find myself logging into Facebook or putting on the TV instead of going to my Bible.

In Gods word it says:

19Lay not up for yourselves treasures upon earth, where moth and rust doth corrupt, and where thieves break through and steal: 20But lay up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where neither moth nor rust doth corrupt, and where thieves do not break through nor steal: 21For where your treasure is, there will your heart be also.

Matthew 13:44-46

It may be shiny and endearing and even make me feel a bit better in that moment, but it does not last, unlike the peace and joy of knowing Jesus. The Lord has promised so much to those of us that accept Him as their savior and that should be where my focus is, that should be my treasure, He should be what I desire more than anything.

It is hard, because I am a Mum and I am very tired, and when I get a moment I do tend to fall asleep. But I think  thinking about him, focusing on Him in daily life is seeking Him above all else. At the moment I have been guilty of focusing on problems, meetings, housework, crafts, social media, news events, my weight and what I eat. God  desires a deep relationship that involves all aspects of life, I can talk to him no matter where I am or what I am doing I can read and meditate on His word one verse at a time and its OK if I forget what I have read in the brain fog of changing nappies and dealing with tantrums. He understands that I have to deal with Little S, I have to cook meals etc but its where I point my heart that matters, that’s where my treasure lies and, like Little S’s notes that treasure is worth so much more that what I do focus on.

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Christian growth · Uncategorized

Pacing

I have recently started going out jogging with a friend, she is a lot better than me as I am just a beginner. I never realised how satisfying it is to run and I am enjoying it a lot but I am finding that I can’t go as fast or as often as I want to. But I do not want to give up and I am learning a lot about what it means to persevere and pace myself.

I have found out than when you run you have to set a pace and to me it feels like I am going too slow at first but I have quickly learned (the hard way) that if I start off too fast then I can’t keep it up so I have to start at what feels like a slow pace as, as I go on it does not stay feeling like a slow pace. If I start off too fast I run out of steam and wear myself out.

In Hebrews 12:1 it says:

Wherefore seeing we also are compassed about with so great a cloud of witnesses, let us lay aside every weight, and the sin which doth so easily beset us, and let us run with patience the race that is set before us,

Here Paul is drawing a comparison between our walk with the Lord and a race and He says we are to do three things, lay aside our weight and our sin and run patiently. When I am running I think of this as I realise that I am in this for the long haul and if I don’t want to burn out I have to pace myself like I do when I am out jogging. Sometimes that feels like I am not doing enough but when it comes to a busier time then I realise that it was wise not to take on any more as I wouldn’t be able to do it all when life gets hard, or I get ill or when I have more things I need to do. And I am finding I need to be more patient at the slower times when my pace feels too slow more so than when it is ‘faster’, just like when I am out jogging.

There is only one way to be successful at this and that is explained in the next verse:

“Looking unto Jesus the author and finisher of our faith; who for the joy that was set before him endured the cross, despising the shame, and is set down at the right hand of the throne of God.” Hebrews 12:2

Whether my pace seems slow or fast I need to always look to Jesus, remember who He is and what He did and He is the one who will get me through.

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A Christians guide to the internet

Search Engines

There are a lot of search engines about, the most popular one is Google so its best to always start there. Another reason to start there is that when someone creates a website they have to register it with search engines and Google has the most sites registered to it. Google also owns some of the largest sites on the internet now such as YouTube and blogger (so do not worry if you have a blog on there, Google knows it’s there you don’t have to do anything)

I thought I would share a few facts on search engines then I will give some tips on how to use it effectively.
1. Search engines cannot search the whole internet, they only have access to less then 10%, one reason is because sites have to register with them to be found but also because a large part of the internet is behind a or is private so search engines cannot go there. If you wish to know more this site has some good information: http://netforbeginners.about.com/cs/secondaryweb1/a/secondaryweb.htm

2. When you put your search term and click search what happens is that the search engine sends out data packages called spiders to crawl the network to find the information you are looking for. They then bring that information back and index it according to how relevant it is for your search. This site shows a good overview of what happens when you use Google to search the internet. Google: How search works

3 Different search engines can be useful depending on what you are searching for, for example Google scholar searches for journals and papers and is useful for researching, plus there are sites dedicated to just finding jobs in certain areas and fields etc. Also when you use a site, that has a search facility that only searches their site. So without realising it you are using probably using many other search engines as you look around the internet.
Using Google

As Google is the best known and most used I will give a little advice on searching on there to get good results.
It actually does help to know a few things on using Google to help you find the site you need. When you begin a search be as specific as you can be and once you have the results look at what you have and refine your search accordingly.  For example if you are looking for a chicken recipe put in the term: chicken recipes then if you need something for a dietary requirement put that in too. So chicken recipes could become gluten free chicken recipes, you might find that gets a lot of results so you may need to refine a little more. Depending on the results you get depends on how you refine maybe you get a lot of results from a specific country so could try to put in your country. Then your search term becomes gluten free chicken recipes UK. Maybe you find a nice ingredient in a recipe, pop that ingredient into your search term and search again. As you go along you will find you get more and more specific results to what you are looking for. Eventually you should get a list of sites that are more manageable to look at.

If there is something you do not want to come up in your searches then put a minus sign before it and Google will not return with pages with that word in.

Its best to keep your search term specific as Google doesn’t read words such as ‘and’ or ‘it’ in sentences. Nor does it read punctuation. However if you wish Google to search those terms you need to put quotation marks around them.  But be aware it will search each word on its own so will come up with a huge amount of results that might not be relevant.  If you wish Google to search the whole sentence as a whole, say a title for a book then you put quotation marks at the beginning or the end of the search term. This means you can be very specific about what you wish Google to search for. This page has some good and simple tips to get the best results. Google: Basic tips on searching

I hope these tips have been some help. Searching can be quite daunting if you have never done it before and next time I will go over some safety features on Google and other sites so we don’t get any sites that we don’t wish to see. Obviously as Christians we will come across things that we might not agree with or things that might be offensive as the world sees things very different to us. But the Lord understands and sees our hearts, He knows when we are searching for something that we shouldn’t be and if we have just come across something we didn’t want to find.

According to Google there are 60 trillion web pages on the internet and we know the Lord knows every single one of them, He knows who created it and what and who is looking at them, we cannot escape Him even here and He will protect us if we ask Him. The internet can be a great tool for us to glorify Him and learn about Him if used correctly and He will guide us on here like He does in all aspects of life. We must make sure what we look at is not damaging to our fellowship with Him or leads us to sin and the temptation can be very strong, but the word says if we resist the devil he will flee so take heart as you use the internet as the Lord knows your intentions and your weaknesses and He will help you.

 

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A Christians guide to the internet

Accessing (and Respecting) The Internet

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Whenever we go in to the internet and ask it to do something such as search or go on Facebook our device sends out requests through the network and will be directed were to go by servers etc. This can get a little complicated so I will try to go over it simply in the next post when I discuss searching the internet.

Accessing the internet now is a lot easier as each device has its own way of accessing the internet, if you are accessing at home you just need to put in the code that’s on your router into your device and it will access the internet for you.

⦁ A router is a the box that your internet provider sends you that you plug into your phone line, it basically works as a signal box for the information and tells it where to go in the first instance.

However as you are reading this I am going to assume you have got that far already so I wanted to share something that is worth remembering when you are on the internet.

Everything on the internet and everything we do on the internet takes up space. Everything we upload to the internet takes up space, everything we look at or download from the internet takes up space. It takes up space on our devices and our devices saves a snapshot of every site we access. The means of travel for the information whether it is a physical line or wireless also has a space limit. So as information passes back and forth that space can be taken up and slow things down. Whenever we access a site we are taking up space on their server as we access the information on their site and it is brought up on our screens (which is a form of downloading).

⦁ Uploading is when you put something onto the system i.e a photo you share on Facebook, downloading is when we save something from the system on to our device.

Every device has an address assigned to it called an IP address, so it  can access the internet. It also means that websites have access to that address. This is saved in a little data packet called a cookie. And our devices saves its own cookie from the sites we have visited that has in it the information of the site we accessed and date of when we accessed it.

I have mentioned this as it is worth knowing as the internet is not a limitless entity floating in space, it is being managed by millions of people and information is being passed everyday which is taking up space on all devices and the lines that the information is passing through. So if your internet is slow, it is worth checking what you are looking at and how many pages you have open. – There could be other reasons but that is worth remembering.

The internet is not infallible, there are real humans behind everything and mistakes are made often, things go wrong often and sometimes we just ask too much from the devices we have. We have access to all this information and as a result it is easy to take for granted the work that has gone into us having this tool at our fingertips.As we have traffic jams on the motorway we have information jams on the internet. I believe that if we are to use the internet for Gods glory we must respect it and all the work that people do so we have access to all this information and ways of communicating. I think the internet is wonderful and I am grateful for it!  It is tempting to get frustrated when things go wrong but we must be aware that there are real people behind everything on the internet and there is no difference between losing your temper at someone face to face or somewhere on here.

As Christians it is wise to remember that we are dealing with real people and whatever we say on the internet will be seen by real people. I will discuss this more but for now we must try to remember that we are witnesses for the Lord on the internet as we are in the world and that we should speak to others on there as we would in the world. We also have the knowledge from our Lord that every gift we have is a blessing and the internet is a gift. It is abused by many as is the world and that is also a great gift. So lets try to use the internet to be salt and light as we do in the world.
Thank you for reading and I hope this has been of some use to someone.

Lessons from Motherhood · Uncategorized

Influenced

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As Little S gets older he seems to be taking more and more in of his surroundings. I’m finding he’s doing things and I have no idea where its from or where he’s seen it. One example is he started covering his mouth and pretending to cough, I found out he saw his Dad do it. It’s what we all did as children, we copied others actions and learned from those around us. Sometimes that’s a good thing, sometimes no so much.

As I think about this I wondered if this stops once we become adults and I thought about what the bible says about copying:

And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God.
 Romans 12:2

Here we are being told to not allow the world to influence us, that we are to be transformed by the renewing of our minds…

To renew means to start over, replenish, restart and when I looked up the opposite to renew thesaurus.com says this:

Destroy, finish, halt, shorten, stop, break, damage, depress, discourage, hurt, kill, leave alone, ruin.
Not nice! But this is what the world does, God renews us daily yet the world wears us down until we are broken. There is no rest in the world, but there is in Jesus, a very real and genuine rest. That we have access to every day.

Therefore we do not lose heart, but though our outer man is decaying, yet our inner man is being renewed day by day. – 2 Corinthians 2:16

I was once in a car going past a large hedge surrounding a field, we passed a sheep who had found a hole in the hedge and was trotting onto the very busy main road, there was a queue of sheep behind all following the first sheep.

I believe that when the Lord describes us as sheep that this is one of the reasons why. From birth we copy each other and we don’t stop and think about if it’s a good or right thing. When we turn to Christ He breaks us free of this stronghold but we have to keep asking God to help us not to be influenced by the world. We need to be careful of what we watch, read and listen to, including conversations we have. It’s not easy but we have to remember we are not part of the world anymore, we are are part of the Kingdom of God. And the only one we should be following and copying is Jesus.

Little S doesn’t know what he is copying and right now he will copy whatever he sees, we may have a little more discernment as adults but that doesn’t mean we don’t succumb to the same thing. As Christians we have to realise that just because someone is claiming that what they are doing is in Gods will, we should not be gullible and always look to scripture as our guide.  And remember, Jesus is our Good Shepherd and He is always looking out for those of us who are following who we shouldn’t be. We have to have our hearts open and ready to hear Him call us back.

My sheep hear my voice, and I know them, and they follow me:
John 10:27